Have you ever sat back and just wondered where the years have gone? Ever found yourself thinking “I don’t want to grow old” and thought of getting older as a negative thing? One minute you seem to be cradling your young child in your arms and the next it seems you are being asked to babysit the grandchildren?
Although the years continue to creep, or sometimes speed, by it doesn’t mean you have to feel old. Here are a few tips to help keep yourself young in mind and spirit.
Remember you are never too old to try anything and nothing is ever too young for you to become involved in. Be happy!
At some stage in our lives we all lose someone we love and grief feels overbearing with no light on the horizon. As time passes however life does need to go on and you will need to look back and enjoy the memories without having to shut the person from your life for fear of your feelings. Losses can also be less hard than death such as the loss of old friends and neighbours as they move, loss of a steady income, loss of children and family as they move on in their lives but at the time you feel grief and pain. Here are some tips to help hold on to that silver lining that is on the horizon.
Cry if you feel like it. There is nobody you need to justify your feelings to. If you feel like a good cry then do so. Crying can bring feelings of relief and cleansing. Don't ever feel that crying is a sign of weakness, if anything it is a sign of strength showing your emotions, how you feel about the situation and can sometimes be a sign to others of your needs and support.
In the case of a lost loved one, before trying to move on make sure you have fulfilled any requests they may have made before passing away. This will take any burdens off your mind and will give you that sense of having supported and achieved their Will.
Understand that there are different processes and stages you need to pass through in your grieving. Sometimes you will experience a deep sadness, like depression. Other times you will feel anger at what happened. Waves of emotion can take over your thoughts. Denial at what has happened, thinking somehow perhaps you can turn back time. Eventually acceptance. You do need to keep in mind also that you may experience these different emotions like a roller coaster at different times for a long time after the loss. Just be aware and cope as the times come.
Look after yourself. Get plenty of exercise, eat properly and try to sleep as well as you can. Getting yourself sick is not going to help the situation and will only enhance your feelings of loss and grief. Your body will have less resistance to cope.
If it is not a death you are coping with try to put the loss into perspective. If it is the loss of your ability to sew or knit any longer work on other things you can do and move on. By keeping things in perspective you won't spend your whole time in a perpetual sense of misery which really will become overwhelming in times of a really serious loss.
Know that it will take time to accept your loss. Be patient and don't berate yourself if you have a relapse. Grief can be a lifetime journey and everyone is different in their reactions and time they take through the process.
Grieve at your own pace. Ignore people who either tell you that you should be grieving more (they often don't understand how you are coping with the situation) or those who tell you not to wallow in self-pity. It is your choice when you move on.
When you feel it is right look to the future. Make plans. Don't feel guilty that you have to move on. If the roles were reversed think how you might feel.
Coming home to an empty house or not being able to pick up that ball of wool, whatever the loss it can sometimes seem disproportionately great but whatever the circumstances you can survive and life will go on.
I recently came across this article written by Regina Brett, who as you can see isn't actually a 90 year old, but the simplicity of the messages struck a chord and so this blog post I just wanted to share with you courtesy of www.reginabrett.com - Enjoy - Thanks Regina!!
People often tell Regina Brett how great she looks for her age. Turns out, she is actually 54 years old — not 90. She wrote down these life lessons the night before her 45th birthday after being diagnosed with breast cancer. Over that past decade, these lessons have gone viral on the Internet amid claims that she is 90 years old. Luckily, she finds humour in this misrepresentation, knowing how many lives she has touched. Whatever her age might be, these universal lessons are relatable to anyone who needs a little reminder of what's important in life.
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